This will sound like a thread hijack, but I was going to start a whole new one because I'm so flabbergasted about AH's behavior today, so I'll just commiserate for a moment...
AH is really mad at me and not speaking to me at all because I spent 45 minutes extra at the dog park. He picked me up from the airport today--I was out of town on business all week. I had a conference call, so he told me he was going to his favorite watering hole and that he would meet me at the dog park.
At 4:40 I was on my way to the dog park and texted him to tell him that. He met me there about 15 minutes later and stayed for about a half hour. On his way out he said he wanted to take me out to dinner. I told him his mother expected us, she was making dinner. He left. I texted him shortly after that telling him whatever he wanted to do for dinner was fine with me. I left the dog park at 6:15--I love that park. It's so peaceful and fun and relaxing, so the time went by.
When I got home he was furious. "I love the dog more than him." "He was so looking forward to my homecoming and I just hang out at the dog park." Never mind that he had called my son to play golf, which would have left me alone all day and evening. Never mind that he left ME at the dog park, and could have asked when I planned to be home. It was so totally absurd I couldn't even understand it. I can only imagine that because he had had a few beers at the bar, he was ramping up for the night and my being later than expected interfered with his being able to rope me into Phase II of the night of partying. I don't know. But he's still not talking to me.
Oh well. I guess my only point is, this ridiculousness is such a pain. So I understand and I hear you--but don't be shocked, because that's the twisted mind of an active alcoholic.