missb...WELCOME to SR!! I'm glad you found this place. The people here are awesome and they literally saved me.
Just in case you have a doubt, we do indeed know Tony. He's like every other alkie and uses the same excuses. It's rather boring actually. This Classir Reading link is one of my favourite eye-openers:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...lics-make.html
While you focus on your beautiful new baby girl, try to remember the 3 C's of addiction:
You didn't CAUSE it.
You can't CURE it.
You can't CONTROL it.
Nothing you ever say or do can change your alkie boyfriend (or father for that matter). You're not that powerful! All you can do is focus on yourself and your lovely baby.
So let me ask you: What do you want for yourself? Where do you see yourself in a year? How do you plan on getting there?
I'm glad you're at a friends' house for now. Is there anywhere else you can stay (besides with your alcoholic father?).
Keep posting and reading. SR is always open!