Originally Posted by
Evey2010 
...but he was honest enough to say that it was his problem and that even if he was to quit, he'd have to do it for himself and not for anyone else (even me).
And, well, what can I say to that? He's right. Alcoholics can only quit for themselves... doing it for anyone else doesn't work in the long run.
I heard the same thing from my A. I was so proud and I thought, wow, you're being honest with yourself and me. That lasted 1 week and she was back on the bottles. I've personally come to learn that them taking ownership is a crock and it's just one more arrow in their quiver of lies and excuses and manipulations.
Sorry to poo in the thread but I personally don't buy that ownership stuff anymore. It's still words and I don't think words count for too much anymore.