Points taken. I did go to an Al Anon meeting the other night (and called my sponsor from a year ago). I do think it will just get worse... and even if it doesn't, even the way he "disappears" today hurts. But the Al Anon meeting reminded me to just take things one day at a time. And today he's good to me. Today he doesn't lie or sneak out. Today he's kind and attentive, sensitive and thoughtful. Today he's highly functional, helpful and generous. Today he's the man I love. Al Anon does remind me to stay in the here and now because we really can't know for sure what might or could happen. Fearing what might happen or what even what might likely happen is just pointless... the future is going to come, without or without our fears.