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Old 07-08-2010, 08:35 AM
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One day at a time.

You are doing well. Know your boundaries inside and out. Be specific in your mind about what they are and how you will honor them, to the letter, each and every time. Then keep taking it one day at a time. They can change as you go, but not, IMO, without a lot of introspection as to why you are changing them.

I can see where I've never really had boundaries and when I did, they were very fuzzy. I was not able to honor my own boundaries because of it and I basically did not have even very basic personal boundaries in the end. You are entering into this relationship with lots of information and awareness and you can utilize that by creating detailed boundaries and know what you are going to do to honor them and yourself. You'll never be sorry, no matter how this relationship unfolds.

I am spending a lot of time thinking about them and I'm no longer even in a relationship.
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