Very similar
I, too, used to be able to have one or two glasses and then stop. But it escalated. I was drinking a bottle of wine almost every night. I had no consequences to speak of: I have a good job, some extra sick days, but nothing to jeopardize my work, I have a home, no DUIs, no legal issues, a great family. But I knew I was abusing alcohol. (I don't like the work Alcoholic, and recently read that it is not even a medical diagnosis anymore - the term used now is "alcohol dependence." And I definitely have that - I depended on wine when I was happy to celebrate; sad to commiserate; angry or broken hearted to numb; drank when bored. Any excuse, I was dependent.
If you are asking the questions, what does it matter the label? I am healthier without alcohol. I remember my night before. I feel better the next day. Yes, it is a struggle, but I will remain alcohol free, because it is terrible for me to be dependent on it,
Best,
Nancy