Originally Posted by
Lola1024 I have had several "talks" with ABF and he often was in agreement with what I said. I got all kinds of warm fuzzies from that. Problem was the action part. ABF placated me and then kept right on going with his same old and he came out with plenty of passive agressive new stuff too to counter act much of what he "said". .
I think they sometime welcome these talks. it keeps us and them in the same ole place.It seems if we(as a couple) are connecting better and it gives them a chance to "connect "with us against the same enemy. By us not acting and only "quacking" they get a safe place to repeat their ACTIONS. ugh!!!
My STBXAH always liked these talks - then he knew I was going to DO nothing - and he could up with his sneaking behaviour.