Well the saga finally ended about a month ago, you were all right on here of course! Sometimes a man needs to live the journey himself as a learning experience and I guess thats what I did. The problem is I feel addicted to her now, now that shes not around! I think about her, worry about her, wonder if she's passed out again, etc. The removal (physically) has caused my emotions to wander....I do realize that TIME and time to heal are the critical factors now so thats my plan...to take care of ME. I had more stress the 1 year I was with this girl than I did the rest of my life combined! I am going to a counsellor and attending alanon. Thanks to all who posted on this link, I guess I should have listened a year ago!