Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
you can unchoose it too. marriage isn't supposed to be a death sentence....nor is it supposed to full of misery and deception. there's a really big elephant in your living room and tossing a tablecloth over it doesn't make it end table!!!
Very true. It can cause a great deal of guilt to "unchoose", to turn around and say "This isn't for me, sorry", but in the end, it can be so incredibly self-affirming to do so.