Hope you enjoyed the movie...
Often, in my own experience, drinking was the central activity at a barbeque... and as I am on vacation... and look at people having cook outs... I realize I am not anxious to be at one... give me a concert, a bicycle or a canoe and fishin' pole... I wanna DO something, not just watch people drink.
I get it toomutch... Glad you have a supportive spouse!