Welcome to this side of recovery!
There are several of us here that are double winners. We have recovered from our own addictions (mine was alcoholism) and have started recovering from being addicted to our addicted loved ones.
After I got sober, I had to start working on other issues - especially my codependency. I was married to an active alcoholic, and I lost myself in trying to control his addiction and his life. I was always reacting to his actions.
Alanon and self-help books like "Codependent No More" are some of the resources I am using in my recovery from this side of addiction.
Make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed.