Curly - remember that the members of this board are struggling, or have struggled, with the effects of this dreadful disease in its many forms. Those people who have "happy endings" WITH their addict/alcoholic may not be as inclined to post here. Perhaps your local Alanon group would be a good place to ask that question, too.
Having said that, I'm 52 years old, and have a son in active addiction. I've been around the block a time or two and I've never seen anyone successfully recover from alcoholism or addiction. But that's MY experience. Your mileage may vary.
As SoloMio said, you are perfectly capable of crafting a happy ending in your life, but that is always dependent on your ability to accept reality as it is. It's when we have EXPECTATIONS about the way a thing will turn out that we get disappointed--almost every time.
Glad you found us! SR's a great place.