Thanks Freedom. I am slowly letting go of my guilt. My partner is the son of recovering alcoholic. His father is sober 20 years now. So he does know there is a life out there. But like your daughter he has chosen a different path. His parents have stepped back now even they cannot go through the pain anymore. He was clean for a period of 3 years so he knows what its like to clean. I know how hard he fought the last time, and how much he wanted it. He doesn't want it now. He ticks boxes with me telling me he wants to get clean but I know thats what he says to get money to get what he needs. Over the last week i have stopped giving him money. I cancelled my bank and credit cards and told him that there was no more money. Baby steps one day at a time.....