No its not harsh. I did call the cops last month and they found nothing, he is smart enough not to have anything in the house. Today was unusual in the sense that I found him like that. The kids went away on a holiday this afternoon so he probably was taking advantage as that what he always does. It makes me feel stronger knowing that there is people out there who have been through similar circumstances and have made it!!It gives ME the courage to accept the things I cannot change and the courage to know the difference...