Wow Kitty...how I relate. I was molested by a family member as a child; when I recently told my mother this, she came out with essentially the same thing--"well don't talk about it, because it's too difficult for ME to deal with." Nice, eh?
It's a sad, sad thing to come to the realization that you didn't get the emotional support that you should have (unconditional support, I mean) from a parent, but I guess coming to this realization means that there's nowhere to go but up from here....
sending you hugs and thanks for your post.