Old 06-28-2010, 08:06 PM
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mf150
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I agree with seeker7.

Just because a person is an alcoholic doesn't mean that he/she is automatically a jerk or a flake. Some of the warmest people I've met have drinking problems. They are in pain, frustrated with life, and predisposed to the condition.

If he's stayed out all night before and not called his ex-wives, what makes you think he wouldn't do the same thing to you once the newness of the relationship wanes?

It's one thing to want a peaceful life and to settle down. It's another thing to actually commit to what it takes to get there.

If you trust him, I'd talk with him about your concerns. Start there. The way he responds to your concern will tell a lot about where he is. Then you'll have something to work with if you choose to.

Sounds like he's medicating himself via alcohol and not dealing with the issues that contribute to his alcoholism. Sooner or later these issue with manifest in your relationship (unless he deals with them).
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