Katfshh, Welcome to the forum. It has been a lifesaver for me. I saw enough insanity before I married my ex that I should have run but I thought things would change. That was a severe miscalculation on my part. It got much, much worse. My advice is to go to AlAnon, keep reading here and don't marry this man or let him move in with you. If you think you've seen crazy now just wait until he's there all of the time. Your intuition seems to be telling you what you need to know. I wish I had listened to mine.