Thank you. I need this support right now. I have had a previous active alcoholic in my life 5 years ago. It was hell. He was physically, and emotionally abusive. He went to jail three times for hurting me. I finally had enough the third time. He was a great guy sober, but evil drunk. I can't do that again. I am just so disapointed, because this A was in recovery, and it felt so good to me that he was! I had no idea that he wasn't stable, or was going to relapse. I guess it's always a possibility. But, to me when I committed to him, I was so proud that he was strong enough to admit he had a problem, and to be in Recovery. I feel so stupid though. Because now my heart is broken, and I am so sad to see that this will not be what I had hoped for.