Kat, welcome to SR! I'm sorry for the circumstances that brought you here, but I'm glad you found us.
I hope you do make the Alanon meeting on Wednesday, and please continue to attend for your own sanity.
Get your hands on a copy of the book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. Another one I recommend is "Women Who Love Too Much" by Robin Norwood. Amazon.com often has used copies for a decent price.
I would also recommend you go no contact for now, including the texting. Trying to reason with an active alcoholic is nothing but circular, frustrating, and fruitless.
You won't get through to him.
You didn't cause his alcoholism.
You can't control his alcoholism.
You can't cure his alcoholism.
It sounds like he's a far cry from any semblance of real recovery and stability.
Let's get the focus back on you, and grounded in today, okay?
Keep posting if that's what it takes to quiet your mind for a bit. I know what that is like to be lost in someone's alcoholism emotionally.
:ghug3