I have found in my life that a healthy measure of detachment from EVERYONE is imperative if I am to maintain my peace and serenity. This has been a difficult lesson to learn and practice. If you don't know and recognize this feeling of healthy detachment in your romantic relationship, it behooves you to learn how to do this. There is only one way I know how to learn this and that is 12 steps. Incognito, you seem to adore all that he does and although you seem to recognize some of his 'bad' you MAY be in denial. Whether or not you are is not for anyone but you to discover. People on SR may be able to help you determine what is going on with you. I recommend you get some emotional distance from this guy.
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