Originally Posted by
smacked 
Exactly what noday said.. You really can't ask that he stop and expect anything.. you can tell him you have a problem with his drinking, and that you have a problem with having your children around someone that is always drinking.. and that you plan to not be around him if he drinks, and see where the conversation goes. At this point, it is only YOUR problem, it's not a problem at all for him..(yet).
See now this is valuable information to me. (and what nodaybut2day said)
Instead of asking him to quit and telling him he has a problem, I can put the ball in his court and tell him *I* have a problem with his drinking and see if his reaction is that his drinking becomes a problem for him.