"I am not going to just throw him out every time he slips up. BUT, I also told him that I demand honesty from him. When he wants a drink, he is going to tell me, and we are going to get him in touch with his support group. If he does drink, then he is going to tell me. Now if he can't manage this, then there will really not be any reason to carry on with the marriage."
Lisa, EVERY time I relapse, I HIDE IT from the people who it will upset. I am not a bad, immoral or uncaring person; I am an addict, an alcoholic, and a CoDependent. Honestly, IMO it is not fair of you to create these standards and expectations of him because you are setting him up for failure. Why do you want to control him and his life in this manner?