Spritual seeker:
I have been gone for a while and just read your post today.
I am so sorry for your loss. Words cannot express the sorrow I am feeling for you and your family.
I don't know what happened because I have been away, but whatever did happen it was God's plan and what else can we do but accept it.
I was not able to light the candle on the 19th, but I promise I will do it today and again on Sunday at mass.
Prayers coming your way
Devastated