Welcome!! Your story sounds exactly like mine.. I have two kids, drinking alone since late 20s, only at night when kids are asleep and not everyday (about 3 or 4 times a week).I am also embarrassed to admit that I stopped breastfeeding partly so that I could drink more (oh that so hard to admit). My hubby drinks a fair amount but doesnt seem to have a real problem with it... and anyway, I have to deal with my problem, not his.
All I can say is only you know whether or not you have a problem and its up to you to take the necessary steps. Just try it for 30 days and see how you feel, you wont regret it, I promise you that
Welcome!