Hi Grace, I wish I could, just don't know how, it took me two years the last time, to get all my facts and proof, then one night by the grace of GOD (HP - Higher Power) he had been drinking very much and i just got the right timing. He promised to stop, I think it lasted all of 4 days, then I noticed slowly but surely the pattern start again, but this time very secretive. So now I think I went through hell and devastation to bring it in the open and he just went straight back to lying and drinking? where is our marriage/partnership gone? As I mentioned to Sesh, I think since his early adulthood he has had 8 sober years and is now in total denial. He came from an A home, really bad childhood. I have left it up to HP to deal with him and now I concentrate on myself and my 2 girls. love M xx