It's funny how things light up when we take our head out of the sand, eh?
Have you tried journaling at all ... in your "spare" time? LOL
Oh, and labeling you with the characteristics that he has?... that's called "
projection"
Projection is a defense mechanism that involves taking our own unacceptable qualities or feelings and ascribing them to other people. For example, if you have a strong dislike for someone, you might instead believe that he or she does not like you. Projection works by allowing the expression of the desire or impulse, but in a way that the ego cannot recognize, therefore reducing anxiety.