just a note to add.....I've been in a relationship for 3 years....all but the 4 months I've been sober this relationship has been filled with booze....My bf is still drinking...heavily at times... not in the house,but comes home stinking of booze...he has drank everyday this week, now lays around the couch!!! I'm finding myself trying to control his drinking...and i don't want to go there...been threw this before...but now that I'm sober I guess Im expecting him to show some respect...I'm wanting a new life and it seems he just wants what he has always had....maybe I'm outgrowing him...maybe it's time to move on...I love your post lightseeker..and I'm going to take it to heart!!