About LTD's post:
My marriage turned into a copy of my IL's marriage.
What else did my abusive, rageaholic husband know except what he saw every day of his life?
He made me (and I participated!) into the unhappy, needy, unfulfilled, overburdened wife who over-shopped and overate to fill the cavern inside where love was supposed to be.
He got to be the put-upon, overburdened husband whom nobody understood. he screamed "just leave me the f%&* alone" and told me that I was an "annoying, clingy ball and chain" while I did everything in my power (hahahaha) to control an uncontrollable situation while I let myself become depressed and powerless.
It was awful. And I felt personally responsible for getting into it, and I thought that committed, serious people don't just walk away and tear their children's home apart. I was afraid of naming my marriage a failure, too. But my failure to call it that didn't change what it was and what it was doing to my kids and me.
Good luck.
