Originally Posted by
Hurtbad2505 
At my meeting last night a lady there was talking about how much her marriage and life in general has improved since her AS moved out (even though he is still using)...I want that peace I saw in her
That peace is possible, and it's available when you are ready to grab it.
I'm going to speak to you now as a recovering addict, not as the mother of an addict.
He's using you, period.
Every day that goes by that he is still under your roof, internally he is thumbing his nose at you, and will continue to use every chance he gets.
As long as I had enablers, I was never going to hit a bottom.
You don't owe him a thing, including time to save up money for a place.
Your healing, your peace can start whenever y
ou make that choice.
Until then, expect the same old same old from your AS.
It really is that simple. Is it easy? No, it was one of the hardest things I ever did to completely detach and let go of my AD.
That's when the healing and peace began for me.
BTW, her drug of choice right now is Xanax, and she's still not welcome in my home.