Hurtbad - Welcome to my world! ...especially the part about cleaning up the act and as soon as your guard is down they start the **** again.
Yeah, sounds like the only way you're going to get your sanity back is if he is out on his own and you're are taking great steps toward that goal. Drugs or no drugs, it's time.
You're gonna have to steel yourself in the next few weeks while every manner of manipulation is thrown your way. PLEASE hear it for what it is: meaningless quackery.
Let me know if I can lend an ear. We're in the same boat.