Thread: god help us.
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Old 05-22-2010, 07:04 PM
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SisOfAnAddict
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Krizlo, there is no time frame for separation. You do it until you feel comfortable allowing him back into your life as your husband.

His recovery shouldn't be for you or the kids. He needs to do it for himself. You weren't enough of a reason to stay clean before and you won't be enough of a reason when he gets out. Him asking you why he's even there if there's a chance you'll split should be a red flag to you.

I think the letter idea is great. Make a copy for yourself too so you don't forget the boundaries you set. Having it in black and white is hard to argue with. The hard part is following it. Both you and him!
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