Yay for you Out!!!! You did it!
I have to laugh today - struggling as I am, or was, with a situation with my extended family. But, after some ES&H (thank you), I feel better and not so muddled. What you wrote, especially about the selfish thing - it is sometimes such a struggle for me to fully grasp that concept.
I still have the most trouble with old relationships - especially family. Things pop up and I find that I can slip with boundaries and sanity.
New life, new people, new relationships, I feel like I'm doing well and am clear with myself as to what I will accept and allow to have in my life in close proximity. Much different that what I used to do.
Years from now I'm sure I will look back and see continued progress (I hope anyway), but laugh at myself and what I thought was doing "well"
- but based on what I know now... Can't wait to see what I will know then!