Yes, I have already stepped in before, 3 times, 3 days each time. I am letting go and it feels so much better. Thankfully, Pastor did come over. It seemed to make a difference. Only time will tell if he will go for the 11 month treatment. He said he probably will, but you can only lead an alcoholic horse to water.... Afterwords, I talked with Pastor alone to explain a little more how serious the situation was and also inform him that I felt I had done everything I could and would have to divorce him (financially necessary) if he didn't get help but AH would also want it anyway. I said that God didn't intend for me to live this way, and He'll forgive me. Pastor said there is only one unforgivable sin and divorce isn't it. I was proud that I didn't ask permission or feel religiously oppressed by a strict God; God is more loving. Still don't know where all this will end up. I just hope I will find strength and get past the tears.