I understand that it's going to take a lot more than just deleting a few phone numbers and that it's going to take A LOT of work on his part. As for doing things for myself, I've already started to take some time for myself to make myself happy and finding time for ME to spend time w/ positive ppl and friends whom i haven't been able to spend time w/ for quite some time now.
When i answered, he broke down crying hardcore, talking about how he "thought i was gone forever because i hadn't answered my phone all day and how he needs help and couldn't stop using." I'm going to restrict my answering his calls to when i SEE my phone ringing, as it's on silent all the time and usually in another room. Just so he has some time to himself to reflect and i have some peace of mind for myself.
I'm going to my very first Al-anon meeting on Monday. Kind of nervous, kind of excited.