coffeedrinker

this is what i was referring to, when i said "get up in her face"

and the second sentence, her smoking dope all day, is also what i was referring to.
i am assuming that she is getting high because she is. i'm assuming that she wants to be high, because she is getting high. and if what you said is correct, it's every day.

your statement that "she is what she is" is absolutely true. sugarcoating it will not make her not an addict, who is currently not clean and sober. you said that you feel going to the bar, and/or smoking some pot helps to keep her sober. but she is using drugs - so she is clearly not.

for sounding like a smart-a*s, and for being perhaps too blunt, i apologize.
i stand by what i said, however, and truly hope that you can keep seeking answers. they're out there, and that will only help you.