Wow, Kittyboo, I'm with SummerP, it's incredible how all of that went down in my relationship, too. Thank you for your words, they are so well said. Yup, the same conversations, I thought I was "understood" and that the apologies were so real and heartfelt...and I'm not saying they weren't, but they were so NOT about me, they were about my ex keeping things status quo. Gawd, the late-night hours-long conversations that were repetitive, predictable and senseless. All that time tossed into the abyss...I'm so grateful to be investing my time/money/energy in things other than that relationship!
I'm pondering the "rent free" comments. Yes, they're costing me dearly, though I find that I'm learning about myself if I keep the focus on MYSELF and not wander into the neighborhood of "how much my ex must be hurting." Lots for me to sleep on tonight.
iwant, I know you're hurting. Hugs.
posie