Sending you support as you make changes.
Think of a future with one less pacifier (King Baby) and one less pamper to change.
Tonight and tomorrow, set a small goal for yourself. Don't mention his drinking. That will take away the opportunity for him to resort to lying about his drinking. Maybe it will stop his verbal abuse for 24 hours.
Not mentioning his drinking is not the same as being okay with his drinking. You are letting him do what he is going to do anyway. You will be busy making plans for your new future while he numbs his brain on alcohol.