Old 05-01-2010, 05:07 PM
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SoloMio
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This was really insightful. My aha was this quote:

"Many people describe their "soul mate" as the person they have finally found who understands the emotional pain they had experienced as children. Such a bond can certainly feel romantic in the early stages of a relationship, but its foundation is actually injury, pain, and fear. In this paradigm, pain becomes a prerequisite for remaining close to and needing one another, and healing can be seen as a positive threat to the bond. The partnership is inevitably threatened when one of them decides the time has come to release the past and move on."
That's how my AH and I are... it's uncanny how our lives were parallel--notably, we both lost fathers at the age of 12 due to complications from alcoholism. There were other things, but this idea that we base our relationship on our painful experiences was really important for me to hear. I have always considered AH my soulmate, which makes it harder to do the moving on when the time is right.

Thanks for this!

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