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Old 04-26-2010, 02:36 PM
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Originally Posted by mentallyexh View Post
shouldn't I EXPECT that my husband would be HONEST with me????????
I had the hardest time with expectations, too. Of course I should be able to expect honesty from my husband.

Someone finally explained it to me in a way I could understand. Expectations are fine for roles, but where it gets to be a problem is when we attach them to individuals.

So, yes it is fine to expect honesty from someone in the role of husband. But, the person who is filling that role in your life right now is not honest. Since you cannot change the individual, you must either change your expectations of the role, or remove him from it. Trying to force someone to meet your expectations, just because they have a particular role in your life, is much like trying to jam a square peg into a round hole.

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