The ol switch and bait routine.... I've been thru it too... I'm sure a lot of us here have... but I can only speak for myself.
Sure enough... my exaH said for a full month he was coming to get his stuff and didn't show... he said what he said to pull my chain... that's called manipulation.
I learned here that at least one year of sobriety is the only thing to consider as being a "real change"... and in reality it should be at least two years...
I remember reading on here... can't remember where.... but the alcoholic/addict needs us more than we need them and they WILL DO ANYTHING to keep us under their thumb... it's called "the dance". Show him how big girls dance.... bee bop right on down the road.... waving your hands in the air... wave them around like you just don't care.
Please remember that when you hear the quacking.
Take care of YOU.