Some days are just hard. (((hugs))) I have had 2 weeks of bad days, and feel like I am finally coming out of the tunnel. We adore you and we know you can do it.
Your dd will be spared the worst of the ACOA problems because YOU, not her dad, will set the standards for her life. You will have far more influence and you will provide her with stability and not subject her on a daily basis to chaos and crazy. She will be okay and YOU will be okay. (((noday)))