Hello Uncertainty,
Welcome to the forum. I am very glad you found this place.
I will tell you my experience as a recovering alcoholic.
When I finally said the words, "My name is Beth, and I am an alcoholic", that is when the lies ended. It was at the intake to my 6 week inpatient rehab. I broke down and cried, cause I knew I no longer needed to lie to myself or anyone else.
The relief was monumental, like I had hiked for years with 100 pounds on my back, and finally put it down. I felt very light.
If he is lying about something like the actual day he got out of rehab, I think he could still be playing the odds with you and the other woman who is facebooking his progress.
You know when I started to lie to myself again?
It was about my addicted ex husband, and the effect his illness and lies would have on our children. Tread very carefully, and if you smell something bad, your gut starts to churn, listen to it. Your senses are telling you the truth, certainly better than any alcoholic can.
Thank you.
Beth