anvil, I understand what you're saying--and I've got a rather large soapbox of my own, but until we go to court (May 3rd), I need to keep up visitation to "keep up appearances" and show my good faith. My lawyer advised me to just do what I've been doing for the past few months, but no more.
If he does show up to court, the issue of transportation will specifically be brought up, because he is making NO effort whatsoever to see his child. If I were to tell him that I'm ill and cannot get out of bed to bring her to him, he would a) ask that my mother or father bring her, or b) cancel altogether, rather than take the subway himself to come see her. So yah, I get that he needs to step up, but right now I just want to lay lown until we go to court. 2 more visits to go until we do...