**{hug}}
It is so hard. The unreliability, the irregularity, etc., make it so much harder on the kids. I sometimes secretly hope that xah gets a job out of state (he is constantly applying) although I know that would devastate the kids and isn't really the best. He could also have them legally in the summer then and he couldn't do that unless he found a woman to live with him and take care of them, which scares the HELL out of me.