Originally Posted by
SisOfAnAddict 
... we weren't allowed to talk about it.
....we had to keep jumping every time she called
If something happened to her it would've been our fault because we said NO this time.
We've been held hostage by the suicide attempts. Held hostage by her abusive relationship.
We're never allowed to be hurt or angry.
we aren't allowed to question her decision ....
we need to continue to jump when she tells us to.
Sounds like a lot of mutual control issues and manipulation, going on here.
She keeps doing what she's been doing and you and family keep doing what you have been doing and nothing changes. How's that working for you?
There is nothing you can say or do to control her or her addiction. There is nothing you can do to prevent her from harming herself, if that is her intent.
None of this is your fault. You did not cause it. You cannot control it. You cannot cure it.
Please consider picking up a copy of Codependent No More by Melody Beattie at you library or used at Amazon for about $2.