Hey again Steve
It took me a long time to get it...but I figured if my life is boring then it's up to me to fix it....and I better find things to do and changes to make that won't destroy me.
I tried quitting drinking and living the same life and being the same person - it didn't work for me.
Nothing changes if nothing changes Steve.
Some find that change through prayer or some kind of spirituality, others find it through service works, others use a recovery programme like AA, others still try some counselling...
I'm not saying you need to shave your head and join a monastery - but you need to work out how to be comfortable with who you are, and with your choice not to drink.
I daresay you'll find a lot of ideas and suggestions here
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