When I was about six months sober myself (congratulations on that!), I became much better about my feelings and began to see things alot more clearly - particularly about all the dysfunction around me that I used to just naturally react to.
It helped me to stop and ask myself, "Is this situation (or person or thinking) dysfunctional?" If yes, the next question is, "Can I change it"?
This is where the serenity prayer "...courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference" comes in.
Lots of people who were close to me fit the "no, I can't change them" bill and I had to learn to be OK with that and let go. Have you tried Al-Anon in addition to AA? I tried both in early sobriety (mostly AA, but some Al-Anon) and it helped alot in learning how to detach with love.