May I suggest you ask this second guy, to give you time and space to recover, from the creep you are still in some ways involved with. Look at where you are, when with the one you have been with in the past....the drinking, anger, abuse, lies etc and cut him off Now.
Get into healing you, strengthening you, learning about loving you....then look at a new man....maybe.
By the way, I see red flags in new guy wanting to spend every min with you, as the last thing you need is a clingy or controlling man.
God bless