WOW! So happy that you see a future for yourself without the craziness. That's huge. I wasn't able to see that when my AH told me he wants a divorce (I see it now!). Please speak with an attorney, if you haven't already. Most will see you for an hour--no charge consultation, no obligation on your part. Find out the do's and don't's, especially business-wise, so this goes the way you want it to.
AHs will throw around a lot of threats, etc., so knowing your rights can keep the craziness level down.
Take care of you. You sound strong. There will be difficult days ahead, but oh the destination is so worth it! I'm not even there, but I can see it!
Prayers are with you.