IME the loneliness of living in a relationship like the one you have now is 10 times as great as the loneliness of living on your own.
Take him out of the equation for the next 30 minutes and just really think about where you want to live, who you want around you, etc. Flesh it out and make that vision real. Then make that happen because I swear to you - you have what it takes to make it happen. I can feel it and see it in your posts but you are tethered to a man that is sinking like a stone at sea.
You can not save him. He is the only one with the key to release the weight he carries. It is sad to cut someone lose and see them sink but you must. The only other option is to sink with him.
